Grrrr!!!

You are not grumpy at all Julia. Children are dictating the cakes now, most of the parents that I deal with now are almost afraid to get the cake wrong. The good thing though is that for the kids the cake has become the main event at the party and so we are getting to do better children cakes.

LOL hahaha I can’t say because i don’t sell and my cakes are predominantly for my kids who I let choose their cake theme and they design it with me :D

Haha not much help to you so I’ll send you some hugs ♡♡

My kids are in their 20’s but I have always let them choose the theme of their party. Then I would get coordinating cake and decorations.

When kids are too young to have any idea about what they want then the parents choose.

But I will not tolerate the child changing their mind 10 times. Pick a theme, show me a photo if you want, then leave me to it.

I don’t think you are grumpy at all. As we get older we have less patience for parents who let their children dictate and run their lives. I will not be run or dictated to by someones child about a cake.

Aww… Yes I don’t like being told how to make a cake down to every detail, or being given another person’s cake to copy, or most of all having changes after ordering (that I really hate because I start preparations and make details well in advance). But I treat requests as a negotiation, and if i think something is a very bad idea i suggest an alternative, so far that’s worked. I also have a cake request form where I clearly state any changes once the form is submitted may not be possible, or may incur extra cost so please be very sure what you want as I would like you to have the best cake possible, and don’t want to have to rush it or charge a lot extra, or both. Parents may put their foot down more if they realise it’ll cost them more as well as inconvenience you… But I can’t say for sure as I haven’t been in the situation yet! Xx

Thank you ladies. I feel much better after venting and reading your comments – you all make some really good points and Naomi, thank you for the hugs (I wondered what those little lines were when you put them on someone else’s message and now I know! :-D ) xXx

I hear you Julia!
I stress to every customer that no two of my cakes are alike and I do not copy other cakes, explaining that to their kids is their prerogative.

My kids tend to design their cakes with me, perk/result of mum being a caker I suppose. Mostly I get given a theme rather than a picture, it’s so much more fun starting from scratch with an idea!

Hey you’re not grumpy.. We all have our little quirks in the cake industry that niggle away and I certainly have had the odd moment when things kinda “get up my nose” so to speak 😄 I prefer the surprise too, but let the order of the cake guide me on theme, then prefer to run with it…. When it comes to my grandkids, they tend to ask me if they can have a certain theme or design for their cakes… I adore them and want to give them anything they want, so always try to meet both camps on this… Their theme and my surprise element… My last cake for my one grandson was a TRex … He showed me the picture… And got the shock of his life when he saw the actual cake… Hahaha, in a good way, as it turned out to be 3’ high and 4’ long… Totally not what he was expecting. He was so thrilled he took pictures to school, bless his heart.. .. .. So you can still put the surprise element into it too, despite being asked for a particular design. I sure get your point though, and very valid. Thanks for the debate 😄

Sorry… part of the birthday tradition in our house was the kids spending weeks pouring over the “Australian Women’s Weekly Children’s Birthday Cake” book. They loved choosing their own cake. This year my 22 yr old wanted another train cake, because he loved the one he had as a kid.
We might not have been able to give them the gifts they would have liked, but they got their cake! ♥

Oh Julia they are love hearts but it seems you can only see them on an Android system as recently when I bought my laptop – on Microsoft windows they do show up as lines haha people must think I’m crazy ♡♡♡♡

I can’t imagine the pressures of selling a cake – people can be so demanding and unreasonable especially when you start to give them a little free reign – you know the saying Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile!