I really hate it when I meet with a bride and the mother thinks she’s the main focus of the wedding. I had a consult earlier today and I could tell from the get-go that the mother was trying her best to recreate “her” wedding day. I can handle overbearing people, but the poor bride couldn’t – every time I asked her a question, the Mom answered. Any idea the bride presented “I would like dots” immediately got shot down. All the cake photos the Mom brought were really bad 70’s type cakes. At one point the bride stood up and said “Just order what you want, I’ll be in the car”. It took me a good 5 minutes to convince her to come back in and continue the meeting. I finally rough sketched the ugly cake and then said “This is a beautiful cake, but it’s very old-fashioned. I would normally sell this type of cake to a much older bride, or someone getting married their second time”. When the bride asked if she could take the samples home for the groom to taste, Mom immediately popped back with, “Well, I suggest you give all the leftovers to your father – HE’S the one that’s paying for all of this!” I made two to-go boxes so the groom-to-be would at least get a little taste. Grrrrr!! :-(
The bride is always my “client” and signs all of the contracts, no matter who pays. I have suggested and allowed a bride to make changes after the payments have been finalized to allow them more say into their big day. I’m not sure this bride has the kind of mettle to do that.
What are some things you’ve done to help put the bride back in the driver’s seat and Mom in the back?
Jenniffer White, Cup a Dee Cakes - http://cupadeecakes.blogspot.com